Fading friendship

Lobby mates standing at a connecting bridge way under the bright sun light after having lunch on a mild cold winter afternoon. Most of the time discussing faults in the academic curriculum of IITs, Kejriwal politics and where and who will be hosting the next party. The best piece of nostalgic life I had with some folks I call friends. But, the group talk is rare these days and standing on one terrace is a distant dream. We could not even avail ourselves for an online group chat these days, sad but truth it is.

Next month plan karo Goa, nope Ladakh, no no Shimla jayenge and so on. We keep on planning, but execution is just not happening. By the time we come to a consensus, the deadline would already cross. None of us is to be held responsible for the failed plans, but our priorities. Something high on hierarchy will always come up at the last moment. None of us are married yet, I afraid if post marriage, we would be available online for a small chat.

Last tour: Darjeeling

When we had plenty of free time for each other, we were short of money and the carrier trajectory, CGPI, no of extracurricular were on high priority. And now we have money, but very little time for friends and above all our professionalism is so dominating. Another 4-5 years, we will be husbands, fathers and parenting will overtake. The phase where we should enjoy, travel, party is passing by with days, months and all we can do is plan and postpone. I imagine going to Ladakh, Goa, Shimla, Masoori, Chandigarh and many more places with my friends. Once again sitting, drinking, driving, diving and lastly standing with the group and talking about flaws in our corporate strategies, Modi politics, girlfriends, marriage plans and so on.

Life is short and responsibilities are everlasting, but one thing we would cherish in the life ahead will be quality time. The thrill of moments spent with friends is always special and ecstatic. But, with time I afraid, we are losing grip on each other, our friendship is fading gradually.

Mahesh Dangi

The blog is dedicated to Kameng B3 lobby. 

Living on credits

Month end is coming, some pending plans started rolling back. I have to buy this first, no yr that is more important, let's buy this first. Oh friends have been asking for the b'day party since 15 days, lets plan a small party. And then next day 'blink-blink' SMS came, bank's notification of salary. Facial expressions changing, irritation, frustration all started taking over. Why it is always less than the expected amount. And again change of plans, this I will buy later, that I can't afford right now and story goes on monthly.

This should be the story of every middle class salaried employee, if I am not abnormal in particular. I have been trying to manage my monthly expanses for last 6 months now, but nothing is altered so far. Every coming month I think of cutting faltu expenditure, but it looks like nothing is unnecessary. After one week of rich life, pockets looses their weight and three weeks of a long wait for the same blink blink SMS notification.

This can't go on and on like this, unplanned & yet important stuff can knock anybodies door anytime and can't be put on hold every time. If this would be the time in 90's, I would approach any reliable friend of mine to lend me some money. May be asking for money in need, sometimes it is okay, but monthly no way. I wouldn't ask and he won't give either. Fortunately 90's are gone and banks came to rescue with the credit cards.

With this my waiting period for the salary is no longer an issue, but life without problems is boring and credit cards brought one more problem with them. I started buying everything on credit, which I used to postponed earlier . consequently monthly expense have gone up and the salary, which used to last for a couple of weeks is lasting even less now.

Mahesh Dangi